Growing up in a sex crazed world
I was raised in a Muslim household. Growing up i was taught to wait for sex until after marriage. In order to remain pure. I wasn't allowed to watch movies with sexual connotations or music videos, anything that would awaken lower desires that was definitely within my teenage body. I'm not complaining. I still believe holding yourself for marriage is the most beautiful gift one partner can give to another next to a child..
Sex is everywhere. Television, radio, billboards that's what advertisers do is sell us sex. Sex is a billion dollar industry. As the world is now, there was no way for my mom to completely shield me. Congratulations to her though, i didn't lose my virginity until i was an adult. I remember wondering how it would feel like to lose it. I assume it would hurt the first couple of times (reading books taught me that) but that it would be this magical feeling you know? like heaven as a feeling. I wanted to feel that, i was curious. But i couldn't get past the thought of being naked in front of someone let alone them actually touching my body.
My mom was brutally honest about sex, std's and pregnancy with us. I remember one time she made me wear a half of sack of potatoes under my clothes to look like i was pregnant to show me about teen pregnancy and how it is shameful and shamed in our community. I personally think it was to torture me for her personal amusement but whatever.
I had a couple of associates and school mates get pregnant while i was a teenager and like most parents, my mom shielded me and treated them like they had the plague. And when i think of it, some of the women turned out more successful than i. Shielding me didn't stop the desire to have sex. And them succumbing didn't ruin their lives. though i'm sure did pose different obstacles and road blocks.
Its all around us. Its the way we procreate. Its nothing wrong with sex. Sex is natural. I think its about time we stop stigmatizing sex as a bad thing. Unholy, And start placing sex back where it belongs building the family unit. 30 +/- years ago sex was beginning to become commercialized if we continue on the current course we as a people, as a community are on, sex in a few years could be legal to do in the streets and in public.
I don't want to appear like i'm shying away from my usual sexual education class i love writing about i'm just letting words flow throw me to the page. id like to go deeper into teen pregnancy and sexual advertisement in our every day lives at a later time.
-Tea Channelle
